In this blog I look at my son’s response to my question ” what is it like having a student midwife mum?”. I did ask him to be honest and he was , but I think there is so much more he wanted to say but didn’t . I liked reading his positive stance on my midwifery training and what has happened in our lives through it. Yet, I know that he has days when I am too busy to be “Mum” or when I get home from a 12hr shift I grimace rather than smile if he asks me to help him. The mother’s guilt I spoke about in my blog prompted me to ask him and this is what he wrote.
“Where do I start, I’m so glad that my mum has found something she is passionate about. She always comes home whether it’s been a tough or an excellent day with a smile on her face for us. Now, don’t get me wrong there are some difficulties. Being a 16 year old you can imagine my reluctance to take up more household chores to help out.
It’s really awesome to have a role model like my mum who is chasing something she really strongly believes in; one day I hope to be a doctor myself, so that inspiration from her really helps to motivate me. I’m really happy that she’s achieving big things and one day will be a great midwife.”
I’ve never seen my mum so stressed out in her entire life about essays and placement. I remember the time when I tipped the vase full of water, and of course her flowers over my school clothes (That was not a good morning!). Or when my little brother decided school can wait for his extended sleeping hours. Nevertheless, I know my mum will always love us no matter how difficult we make things sometimes.
It’s been a long and difficult past couple years for us, but I know my mum has loved every single step of the way and has achieved so much in such little time. We’re all so proud of her and I can’t wait till she qualifies. ”
This response made me smile,but I know he feels so much more. I wonder when he is a man whether he will tell me what these years really felt like.
NOW my little son (7yrs nearly 8 – get it right mum ) when asked ” what did he think about mummy training to be a midwife ?” He told me this (verbatim)
” Mumma , sometimes I go to nannies because you have to go to work so early , I don’t mind because she makes good toast. I think you look lovely in your uniform and I like your upside down watch. You are kind and You help women BUT please never bring any of those babies home ! OK? ”
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Haha, no problem as long as nanna makes good toast, interesting how midwives use that as a cure all too! It must be so lovely to hear how proud they are x
Thank you so much for this. I have 2 boys and just started my 3rd year of midwifery training. Your sons sound like lovely boys who will grow up respecting women and their choices because their mum was brave enough to follow her dreams! X